Tuesday, August 31, 2010

First Day of School

Today was his first day of school as a Kindergardner! My first day as a school aged mother.

I think we both survived! I did not stay home and part ways with him I did not dwell on it too much through out the day and only called our sitter once to see how he did. She was sweet enough to send me some pictures of him getting on the school bus! It was just so sweet overall!

He did not come home with a note from the teacher and he told me all about his day which sounds like it went off without a hitch! COMPLETELY!! I could not be a prouder mama of him than I am smiling from ear to ear about right now! My babies are growing up it is all entirely just way too bitter sweet! Way too bittersweet!

Monday, August 23, 2010

School and Blog

Today was an anxious day for me. What am I talking about? every day is a day with anxiety in my world always something on my mind and always something to 'worry about' that's just me. Today was an anxious one was becuase I met Noah's kindergarden teacher for the first time today. Mrs. L. Yes, a young young fresh out of college kindergarden teacher. I was not trying to prejudge her just yet so I graciously took a seat at one of the chairs sitting around one of the five tables. Yes, my knees hit the table and I was lucky enough to get both of my but cheeks into those small chairs somewhat comfortably! But I am glad she was not grading us on posture like the nuns of my day!

I found out that she has actually been teaching for two years. Her first year she worked with special education as a floater in the district. WONDERFUL! Right! This to me implies a teacher with patience, some understanding, and cognitive awareness that is okay to be different right? I cant say yet but that is what I am hoping for. I dont want Noah to get 'special' attention for his diagnosis. I just want him to get the attention that he needs in order to thrive in the scholastic environment. Socializing himself into the school is going to be challenging enough for him as he grows up, I want him to know that it is okay to be different, it is okay to think differently, and we all do not have to get along! I would like for teachers to be able to cultivate the talents of their students and understand we do not come in standard sizes! Who in their right mind thinks that everyone has to get along all of the time or always get perfect scores on a test who thinks this is just wasting energy and expunging the many talents we could have in this world.

Okay, I openly admit I have wasted half of my life and my energy trying to find ways to get along with people when in reality it would never happen no matter how hard I tried. It is afterall what helps this world to go around. It is sad that I am finally realizing this but again it could have taken me another 29 years to realize this. I firmly believe that the connections we do make in life are for a purpose. A purpose that we may not understand now or ever but they do have a purpose to help us navigate this journey called life. It is with this mindset I hope to instill into Noah as he starts his journey through school. I just hope for him to learn from me the lessons I have already learned in life so that he can spend his energy on alternative areas - like becoming a world reknown videogame master! (thats his current dream)

A friend, I call her a friend becuase I have openly confessed more to her during our work time together than I think I have with most individuals, sent me a link to a blog today. It was a very aw-inspiring blog that finally taught me to do what I have been battling for the last 29 years and 10 months of my life - just trying to be accepted - just trying to be understood. Well thank you to my dear friend becuase even though I do not have the diagnosis of Aspergers or any autistic spectrum disorder this list of 10 things about Autism I feel not only applies to the behavioral disease that I am battling with my son in how to be a good nurturing parent to him but it also helped me with letting go of a few issues that I have been having over the past 29 years and 10 months. Thank you.